It's one of the oldest cliches in the book, that somehow having sex with a man makes you less 'manly' and less attractive to women. But actually the opposite is often true, and society is finally catching on. I'm a bisexual man.
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Bi guys and the women who date them are often told their love is inauthentic. Bi men are assumed to be gay, and the women who date them are pitied because they must be unaware of this fact. If they actually like both genders, it doubles my competition. More recent research published in the Journal of Bisexuality , asked people of all sexual orientations to review dating profiles of men and women where nothing was altered but their sexual orientation. Even Amber Rose, a key player in the sex positivity movement, has problematic views regarding bisexual men.
However, when I am physically intimate with a man I find it difficult, if not impossible, to maintain an erection. When people are grappling with such questions, what they are really comparing is not so much the qualitatively different sexual experiences, but rather who they experience themselves to be in the context of their relationships with people of different genders. But you do not have to make a choice — not now and not ever. You accept that you are bisexual , so you can fairly comfortably decide to have relationships with people of either or both genders. And you will discover that in a longer-term monogamous relationship if you want that at any point it is the particular person and how he or she makes you feel when you are together that is important — not their gender. There can be reasons for feeling safer with one gender v another, so exploring your childhood feelings about maternal v paternal connections may give you some helpful information limited, though, since fathers and mothers do not necessarily provide traditional gender-based care.